Decisions, decisions, decisions.
Let’s face it. We hate having to make decisions. Which is inconvenient as that is pretty much what life is, one decision after another.
So why do we find decision-making so hard and stressful? Sometimes we would do almost anything to avoid making one even though we know we must.
I think the reason is quite simple – it’s not so much that we don’t want to make a decision, it’s just that we want to be certain we are making the right one!
The problem with this line of thinking is that like many things in our life, it is based on a false assumption. That there is a right decision to be made in the first place.
A decision in itself can be neither right or wrong. It’s just a decision.
I know this to be true. I know it to my core, but you’ll still find me at least once a week (okay, okay, once a day) pulling my hair out, pacing up and down the room and asking our cat for the answer.
This isn’t a very effective approach as her answer to most things is to put her leg behind her ear and have a good clean up.
If I really thought it would help then maybe I’d consider it, but frankly and thankfully, I don’t have the flexibility, so I stick with the pacing and hair pulling.
For a long time, I had a well-crafted approach to deal with this situation.
I’d step away and go and do something else, take my mind off it and try to clean out the fog in my head.
I’d go for a walk, do some reading and get back into a space of calmness.
This was all good and well except for one, tiny problem.
I enjoyed the peace and quiet of this space so much that I would fall into a state of complete inaction. I’d be chilled out which was great, but not much was actually getting done.
Sooner or later, though, it would happen. I’d get that new flash of inspiration.
My head would start racing with possibilities so all I needed to do now was make a decision about which one to take….cue the pacing, hair pulling and blank expressions on my cat’s face despite my insistence that she should be doing more to help me.
I would repeat this process over and over.
Finally, I took a new approach.
How could I possibly know where my decision will eventually lead me anyway?
How many times in your life have you been a situation, based on a decision you previously made, that just feels like the end of your world only to cheerfully report at some time in the future that it ‘was the best thing that ever happened to you”.
I’ve lost count.
How lucky we are. Think about it.
No matter what we decide, at some point down the road, we will probably have the chance to proclaim what a great decision it truly was and how we wouldn’t change a thing about the events that unfolded after making it.
So for the sake of the carpet, your hair, and your pets sanity if you own one, when next faced with a decision between option A or option B just remember that you can’t go wrong. Go with the option you feel that will lead to the outcome you truly want. That will be the one that’s in line with your authentic desires.
When choosing between two options, it turns out they can both be the right decision. They just lead you down different paths
Whatever path you choose, it always seems to work out in the end anyway, doesn’t it?
Until next time,