The 2nd step to living fearlessly and having it all is The Vision. (If you missed the first step, you can read that post by clicking here.)
In simple terms, this comes down to asking yourself the question “what do you want?” but answering that question is never easy, is it?
You’d think the answer to that question would be on the tip of our tongues, but I find most people struggle to offer concrete answers beyond the surface level response of ‘to be happy’.
Why is that do you think?
Could it be because we don’t actually give it any real thought?
We drift day to day like lost ships on the ocean without a clue as to where we are going, or why, for that matter.
Gaining clarity on what you want takes work. You need to get specific and you need to consider all areas of your life. A fearless life is about having it all remember. The feeling of connection, the health, the wealth and the relationships.
It’s not enough to say that we ‘want to be happy’ we need to go further. What would happiness look like for you in all these areas?
There are many exercises to help in creating your vision. Today, I would like to share one particular exercise with you that I, and others, have found immensely helpful in gaining clarity on what they want. It’s called the perfect day.
You may have heard of this exercise before, if so, the question I would ask is did you actually do it? If not, now would be a good time to revisit the idea.
The perfect day exercise is about you describing in detail what a perfect day would be for you from waking up and your very first thought, to going to bed at night and your last one. This day is a normal, regular day so no visiting the moon or winning the lottery allowed. If you had to live this day over and over, if it became your groundhog day, you’d be just fine with that.
The more specific you can be about every miniscule detail, the far better the results will be. Don’t just write ‘I wake up, get out of bed and have breakfast with my family’, describe everything in detail. Where are you? What time is it? What can you see? What is the first thought you have? Who are you with? How do you feel? What does your kitchen look like? What are you having for breakfast? What are you talking about? etc.
You get the idea.
This exercise will take a while and you need to write it down – yes, paper and pen. You may be tempted to ignore that instruction and use your computer but please don’t. There is something powerful about putting pen to paper.
Now, I know only too well the pain of staring at a blank piece of paper so let me give you a list of questions you can ask yourself that will help get those creative juices flowing!
Here are some things to consider when writing about your perfect day:
Where do you live? What County? Do you live in a city, town or the countryside? Are you near the sea or further inland?
What kind of property do you live in? Is it an apartment or house? Do you rent or own it? How many bedrooms does it have? What is the view out of the window? Is there any outside space, if so how much?
When you wake up in the morning what is the first thought you have? What can you hear, smell and see?
Are you alone or is there someone with you? Who are they? How do they make you feel? What is it you love about them? How is your relationship?
How do you start you day? Do you exercise, read, meditate go for a walk? Do you have pets? What are they? How many?
What about children? Do you have any? What are they like? What do they love doing?
What do you have for lunch? Do you eat in or got out? Who are you with? What topics of conversation do you have?
Who are your friends? What do they do? What beliefs do they have? How do you support them? How do they support you? What do you talk about? What activities do you do together?
What do you do for a living? Where do you do it? How many hours a day do you spend working? Who are your clients, customers, colleagues?
What do you spend the afternoon doing? Who with?
What do you have for dinner? Who with and what are you talking about? Where?
What are you wearing? What are you thinking?
What do you do before going to bed? What is your very last thought as you drift off to sleep?
Plenty there to get you started!
You can see now the level of detail I’m talking about. Isn’t this hard work? Won’t this take me a long time to do? Is this really necessary? My answer is an empathic YES to all three questions.
THIS IS YOUR LIFE. IT DESERVES YOUR TIME AND ATTENTION.
You can choose to watch a few more episodes of your current favourite show on Netflix or you can do this exercise.
Only one of those options will get you closer to living to the full, feeling alive and making every second you have on this planet count.
Give yourself the gift of doing this exercise and gain clarity on what truly matters to you and what you really want in life.
Go. Do it now because ‘later’ often becomes never.
As always, I’d love to hear your thoughts below or email me directly. I’ll post the next of the 5 Steps To a Fearless Life & Having It all soon. Sign up for our newsletter below to be sure you don’t miss it. If you think this post could help someone, please share it.
Until next time, Live Fearlessly!